I received a free copy of this book in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions are my own. 

Author Martess A Dowling shares the guidance and help that women who find themselves in relationships with married men need to hear in order to become clearer and more empowered in the book “Is He Ever Going to Leave his Wife?: The Answers to the Questions You Desperately Want to Know”.

The Synopsis

Are you the ‘Other Women’, stuck in a relationship with a married man?

Do you desperately want to know if he is ever going to leave his wife?

This book will help you answer the many burning questions you have about your relationship with a married man so that you can be clearer, calmer, and empowered, ready to take responsibility for your life and achieve the happiness you deserve.

In her work as a tarot reader, author Martess Dowling heard one question far more than any other: ‘Is he ever going to leave his wife?’ After hearing this time and time again, she began to see just how widespread this type of situation was and was compelled to dive deeper into the world of the’ other woman’, to discover the reasons behind the why. Her conversations uncovered some startling truths, exposing the reality of living in the shadows, in a constant state of yearning while the married man returns to his wife. Martess also discovered that the majority of these women suffered in silence, with few supports available to them. Unable to share the affair with anyone, they stayed alone, waiting and hoping that things would change and one day they could be together.

These heart-wrenching stories prompted Martess to research further in an effort to provide some hope and guidance to the many other women out there who are struggling. It was clear that there was a need for sound advice and practical solutions – and Is He Ever Going to Leave His Wife? The Answers to Questions You Desperately Want to Know was born.

In this unique and groundbreaking book, Martess offers a step-by-step guide to addressing the key issues within your situation. Covering a broad array of topics, from grief and obsession to narcissistic behavior and polyamorous relationships, Martess unpacks the plight of the ‘other women’. Written in an accessible and easy-to-follow way, you will learn how to make decisions to progress and empower your life so that you’re not just waiting for him to take that step out of his marriage. With handy quick reference guides sharing the telltale signs to look for if he intends to commit to you, along with the danger signs that point to a lifetime of pain, this must-read book is your pathway from confusion to clarity.

If you are stuck in a relationship with a married man, this practical guide will give you the strategies and confidence you need to gain a deeper understanding of the dynamics of his relationship with his wife and with you. It will equip you with the tools you need to stop yourself from obsessing about him and start making sound choices for yourself, so you can finally move forward in your recovery journey with a clear understanding of where you stand in the relationship.

If you need direction or answers, this book is for you. It may be hard to read, but the truth will set you free, allowing you to achieve the happiness and security you deserve.

The Review

This was a thoughtful and engaging read. So many relationship books take time to focus on the ideal pairings that society has given us, such as a husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend. But romance is so much more complex than that, and the relationships we find ourselves in are not always fairytale endings. When relationships involving “the other woman” are examined, the other woman is often viewed from a more sinister point of view, as if they were always the core instigators of this tangled web of lies and deceit. Rarely, if ever, is it shown how these women are also part of that web of lies and lied to and used themselves by these men, until this book that is.

The author’s use of humor and wit in the book’s writing style helps alleviate some of the heavier subject matter within the book. The way the author examines everything from how women get into these types of relationships to what drives the men’s behavior in this relationship and so much more allows the reader to feel both connected to the author’s work and the emotional and mental toll that being caught up in this type of relationship can do to a person. 

The Verdict

Memorable, authentic, and engaging author Martess A. Dowling’s “Is He Ever Going to Leave His Wife?” is a must-read nonfiction book on relationships and what life is like for “the other woman.” The insight and heart that goes into the author’s work and the layered analysis of these relationships will resonate with many women. If you haven’t yet, be sure to grab your copy today!

Rating: 10/10

About the Author

Born in Malta in 1961, and two years later immigrated to Australia to the seaside suburb of Glenelg with her parents, this is where she loved to watch the activity along the beach and developed a fascination with people. Throughout her early school life, she loved to draw, be creative and organize school plays. She became involved in the school newspaper in high school, and encouraged by Mrs Jerome, her love of writing grew.  

Martess had a beautiful baby boy after she and Alan moved to Adelaide. When he began school, she worked in retail, on a tarot line, sewing wedding dresses, then became a marriage celebrant and loved every second. She still writes and lives a spiritual life with her husband in their beach suburb home with their beloved cats, Dalia Grace and Pip Saru.